My Lolita Origin Story

Once upon a time in the summer of 2012, a young 19 year old decided to finally buy a lolita dress. She had discovered the fashion through anime and didn't know much about it, all she knew was it was poofy... pink... and came from Japan!

Ok so you've probably guessed that this girl was me... unfortunately the resources back then weren't as plentiful as they are now and... well... lets just say that a certain infamous site sold me my first lolita dress....

Yes.... the waist bow is on my head as a headbow and is bigger than my head... and yes the petti is too small and the chest bow is floppy and pathetic... no it didn't look anything like the picture on the website. And no that isn't a lolita blouse, I didn't delve into the fashion again for a long time after this!

So I definitely had a rough start but despite not wearing the fashion, I always came back to it and admired it from afar. Then, in 2020, during lock-down, I decided to take the plunge and try again, this time armed with knowledge of the fashion and sub-styles! I had decided I would go for classic and gothic lolita and I bought a dress from a local comm member who posted it too me.

The dress I bought was a Long Ears Sharp Ears Studio JSK called The Great Voyage Special JSK. It had bunnies and cats dressed as pirates and I fell in love. I made myself a headress, bought an infanta ouji blouse off facebook and got socks and boots off aliexpress and lacemarket. With that my first coordinate was born! On June 2020 at 27 years of age my dream of wearing lolita fashion had finally been achieved!

I bought a few more dresses, shoes and accessories off the same comm member, all classic and gothic style and played around with a few coordinates with my limited wardrobe. But the first coordinate I truly loved was when I made myself a dress, honestly... It's still one of my favorite coordinates to this day (pictured left).

My first brand dress was Alice's Mirage in Paradox by Baby the Stars Shine Bright and I bought that along with another gothic style taobao dress in July 2020. My partner bought me my first dream dress in October 2020 which was British Bear by Angelic Pretty in the red colourway. By this point I preferred wearing classic leaning sweet or "mature sweet" if you will. Truth be told I loved OTT sweet but was told by someone online that I was too old to wear proper sweet and wasn't capable of styling it in the right way, confidence knocked I gave up on that dream... until...

Rainbow Dollhouse by CC Cat in the yellow colourway. In April 2021 I had been to virtual meets with a comm in my home town and I had moved to Northern Ireland and been to an outdoor meet with them. The kindness shown to me by these two groups of people made me realize that I should just do what makes me happy, in the real world... nobody cares if I wear sweet at near 30 years of age! So I bought it, with the headbow, necklace and the GIANT lollipop scepter. I loved the way it made me look and well... the sweet madness continued!

Here I am now, 30 years old, obsessed with chocolate, strawberry, baked goods and teddy bear sweet prints! This was a long storytime and if you made it to the end, thankyou. You should know that all I want is for my readers to be their true authentic selves with no apologies, love yourself and let that love bring you your confidence. Surround yourself with people who like you because you are you, and remember...

You are the best at being you!